Why do Some People have Positive Experiences While Others Have Negative with the Same Beings?

One of the things I find interesting with the paranormal is how different people will have different experiences with the same entities.  I think there are several aspects that influence the interactions we have with these beings. 

 We can often forget that the entities we’re working with have a cultural and societal norm that is vastly different than our own.  In the area I’m in, we have strong Victorian and Edwardian influences.  Even in the areas of what would be called the Wild West, there were still norms that were followed that are alien to us, just as our cultural norms are alien to beings of those time periods. 

 I’ve found that some of the women I know in particular can have difficulty with some of these beings.  I was in one location where a friend of mine was elbowed in the ribs so hard by an invisible elbow that they were sore for 3 days.  Another friend has been called names and another poked with a parasol by unseen people.  On the other hand, I’ve gotten along very well with these entities.  And except for one, they all seem to like me.  The one with the parasol didn’t like me because I was telling her real story!

Well, these situations all have a couple things in common.  The entities were both male and female, but all were from a mid to late Victorian period, into the Edwardian.  This was a time when women did not speak out independently, when people dressed very conservatively, and the man of the house was seen to be the master of the house.

 These friends of mine are amazing people.  They are strong, independent women, have their own bank accounts and jobs, dress in shorts and think for themselves.  They aren’t subservient to anyone.  And there lies the issues the “ghosts” have with them.  They are not the Victorian lady, and don’t fit the norms of the time these beings were walking the earth in their physical bodies.  They are scandalous even to the ladies of ill repute, who contrary to the image given in westerns, were very conservatively dressed in the latest styles.  The plunging necklines of the movies were not a reality!

 Another major factor I’ve noticed is that frequently, we get what we ask for, in a sense, with paranormal entities.  If we go into a location geared up for battle, or expecting some negative activity, we are much more likely to find it! If we go in judging or thinking we know it all and what the entities need, there’s a much greater possibility that they will react defensively, or aggressively.   If we go in expecting to be attacked, we have opened the door and invited the attack!  If we go in expecting evil, we are more likely to experience behavior that can be seen as evil.

 I go in with a sense of openness and interest in the entities for who they are.  I’m not there to judge, or criticize.  I don’t tell them that they were bad people or that they are evil.  I go in as an equal.  I don’t give them greater power then I have.  I keep control of myself, and expect them to not cross boundaries, and they don’t.  We develop a sense of mutual respect and often liking. 

 Some of the entities I’m very fond of and have a very good relationship with would have probably killed me if I had run into them in a dark alley at the time they were alive.  They did what they could at the time and for their incarnation.  Now, we joke with each other. They know they can’t hurt me and have no desire to.  We chat, they drop in for a visit and we joke around.  We accept and respect each other for who we are.  As it is in all relationships, mutual respect is a key element to successful interaction.

 

 

The correlation of our past and current lives

I’ve been doing a good bit of work lately with the connection of my past lives and my current one; and the place of my between lives in the picture.  I’m finding that by looking at the past and in between, I can see much of why I am who I am this time, why areas of my life are what they are, and what I am really hear for.  I’ve been working with clients on their life paths as well.

I find that one soul and I have repeatedly shared lives where we have taken turns in the role of the wise soldier/warrior, and the strong but gentle healer teacher.  This back and forth has gone on since pre-Roman, and I think pre-Celtic times in the British Isles, and has continued through various ages till today.

 The two souls together always make a complete whole.  I don’t think I know this soul mate in this life yet.  And, I might not meet him, but the goal is completeness in each of us.  I think he’s already there, and I’m very close.  I’m not quite ready to tell the world what all that contains, but it does involve being a spiritual healer and teacher and guide.  That part is coming to fruition here and is much of what I do between lives.

Past Life Loves and Their affects on Current Lives

I’ve been working with someone on some past life work and its relationship to current life situations.  We have found that this person has had incredible love relations with a particular soul mate in past lives.  This soul mate seems not to be incarnate in the person’s current life, but does come and converse.

 The subject has been mostly single all this life.  There just hasn’t been anyone that really gave the feeling of the incredible relationship the person longed for.  We have found that the longing is the subconscious memories of the past lives when the two soul mates were together.  The thinking is that this is something that affects many people, including those that have formed romantic relationships, but are just not that satisfied in them.

What do you think?  What experiences have you had or heard of in these lines?

Being One with One's self

We all have our own specialty with psychic – experiences or focus and it’s tied to our eternal beings and what we do between lives as well.  And it’s when we are tuned into that which is our true self that we are the most fulfilled, content and joyful.

Tired of the bullies

So much bullying in the world - interpersonal, people I know bullied by the people they date, government, society, business - and it all wears on the soul of us alll, and is an attempt by the bullies to wear us down so we no longer resist their will.  I hate it.  And I'm tired.  No wonder I perfer paranormal beings to so many people!

Where the Psychic Meets Mental Illness

I had an interesting experience the other day that is something all of us in the paranormal field might benefit by being aware of.  Someone got a hold of me regarding their psychic and other paranormal experiences of late.  This person’s experiences kept expanding and they were rambling in a variety of directions.  Then the person said that they were on medication for some mental health issues.  Some of the issues sounded like they could possibly be confused with the “psychic” experiences that were claimed.

As most people who investigate the paranormal will tell you, the need to determine if any physical and mental health issues as well as any medication or other substance use might be part of the perceived phenomena.  This is also true with those of us working with people and their psychic abilities.
For many of us, the desire to help is strong and we can easily get caught up in the help mode and get over our heads.  And, to be perfectly honest, our egos can also kick in with the idea of I can do this and I know how to fix it all.  We might attempt to determine what mental illness is and what is true psychic ability.  We can delude ourselves into thinking that we really can tell.  Well, in most of our cases, that’s simply not true.  We aren’t mental health professionals. 

The situation can become even more complicated when the person asking for confirmation of their psychic abilities starts saying things such as maybe the mental illness isn’t real, and the diagnosis is based on people not understanding that their experiences are actually psychic in nature.  This person not only voiced that possibility, but also the idea that stopping their medication might increase their abilities and doing so would put them in a more “normal” state.

I struggled with this for a bit.  I’ve personally had friends with similar mental health issues, and have done professional work wearing a very different hat with mental health advocacy organizations.  I know that there could be some truth to what this person was saying – to some degree at least.  I also have read theories from people channeling entities from other realms claiming that mental illness is often simply a case of someone visiting another realm and getting stuck there. 

The difficulty is, these are theories.  And they are made by people without the deeper understanding of the medical aspects of mental illness.  When we work with people in this state, we need to be aware that the advice or comments we make can really put them in a life of death situation, especially if we promote the idea, or give them something they can take as us supporting the idea, that they are psychic, not mentally ill. 

What’s my opinion?  I think it’s possible that there can be a combination of health issues and psychic abilities in the person.  But, as tempting as it might be to help them bring out the psychic, I just don’t have the back ground and expertise to work with the full spectrum of the issues, and working with only a small part, could have devastating consequences on the whole.  In this case, I told the person that I was sorry, but just didn’t have the expertise to work with them, and encouraged them to continue talking to their physicians.  This is probably the same thing I’ll do the next time the issue arises.  Always remember though that the person is a fellow human being and deserves to be treated with respect.

I welcome your comments and experiences!

Describing the indescribable

I think one of the challenges of teaching people to find their own psychic voice is finding ways to describe the indescribable.  I don’t always have the vocabulary to accurately express some of the places I go and feelings I have when doing the work.  I don’t know if the vocabulary exists in the English language.
I was thinking about this the other day as I prepared for my class.  Connecting with that which is within us, yet bigger than us is an important aspect of any spiritual or energy work.  It’s a foundation for grounding, listening and accessing our true selves.  But how to adequately describe what this looks like and feels like to me?  Especially as each person will have their own unique experience with this connection and place of their soul.
For me, there is a place deep within that contains all the universe.  Not just the one we are part of and experience, but it is connected with the parallel universe or dimension as well.  It’s a place is my mind’s eye and a place in my heart chakra area.  It’s the place where I am most connected to my true self – the completeness of my soul.  I connect to this place  - I go there by seeing it and simply knowing it.
It’s from this spot that we grow and evolve as spiritual beings.  It’s the place where we can touch a deeper understanding and level of knowledge, one that is simply “known”, not so much taught.  In my experience, this is an eternal process – one that we work with here on this plane, as well as between lives and on other planes.

Please leave your comments and add your voice to the convesation!